November 11, Remembrance Day (Canada) and Veteran’s Day (USA) is a day to pay our respects to those who have given the ultimate sacrifice in the service of their country. While I am certain their families and loved ones don’t need a National Day to remember them, it does allows the rest of us to pay our respects. It also affords us an opportunity to reflect on all that this means, and as we do so we may find ourselves being triggered by feelings of grief that have lain buried for too long.
Grief has been defined as intense emotional suffering caused by loss, disaster, misfortune, etc.; acute sorrow; deep sadness, and being human it is certainly an emotion that will be felt by each and every one of us at different times during our lifetime. In her book, On Death and Dying published in 1969, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross outlined Five Stages of Grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
While we may have many people in our lives who will hold space and support us as we take the journey through grief, in the end, we are the ones who must take the steps that lead us through denial, anger, bargaining, depression and into the light of acceptance. How quickly, or slowly that process is, I believe it will unfold at exactly the pace we are able to deal with. I am extremely grateful for all the tools I can use and I have found essential oils and special essential oil synergies have been a valuable part of my toolkit.
Here are some essential oils that have been found to be very helpful in moving through the stages of grief.
Benzoin – helps one to release painful memories.
Bergamot – opens the Heart Chakra and allows love to radiate.
Cypress – eases the pain of losses of all kinds particularly when one experiences the loss of someone close.
Hyssop – can calm the internal struggle of conflicting realities.
Marjoram – helps to heal the heart of grief. Promotes acceptance of deep emotional loss.
Melissa – is helpful when one is dealing with issues around death. It can promote emotional clarity as well as understanding and acceptance.
Neroli – eases grief and also helps one to experience joyful love.
Rose – very healing for emotional wounds, especially grief.
Sandalwood – helps calm and comfort.
Tangerine – helpful for those who are working at clearing out old stagnant ideas.
At one time or another we will all find ourselves having to walk along the Journey of Grief, and having the added assistance of a special essential oil, or essential oil blend can help to make it more bearable as we move towards the light.