Next Sunday is Father’s Day and what essential oils will we use this year as we celebrate the Man who ‘gave us life’?
While it becomes easy to be caught up in the whole commercial aspect of the day, it can be worthwhile for all of us to take a little time to recognize the fact that without our Fathers (no matter what role they play in our lives) none of us would be here without them and every experience we had, or wished we had with them has, in part, shaped us into the people we are today.
If all you want to do is create a nice aromatic give for Dad I have included a couple of recipes for an After Shave and a Beard oil. On the other hand if you would like to blend a synergy around the deeper aspects of your dynamic with your own father, or add a drop of an appropriate oil to a synergy you create for a product for your Dad to use, here is some information from Dr. Berkowsky’s Spiritual PhytoEssencing, that could be helpful as one looks for the deeper underlying elements that might be involved.
- Benzoin: If one is in competition with father, or if the father has been intimidating or judgmental during childhood formative years.
- Cedarwood: Father denies child’s existence by ignoring them.
- Clary Sage: Issues with Father. Weak relationship with father, absentee father; lack of insight and guidance with father; weak male influence perpetuated in adult relationships with men.
- Cypress: Father issues – Father may have died or left as a result of divorce when child was young or may have been present but weak and ineffectual or rigid and abusive. Also for those who never knew their father.
- Ravensara: The ravensare individual’s conflict with his father is not generally related to abuse. Instead, it is a far more subtle issue linked to the father’s strong character and somewhat intimidating, frank nature. The father may have been altogether devoted to his child but his impressive strength and proneness to criticism untempered by positive reinforcement rendered him an intimidating force. Hence, a childhood paradox develops wherein the child at once comes to feel secure under the protective wing of the father yet develops a sense of inadequacy as a result of its imposing shadow. Thus, the fond memories of a protected past that contrast with the uncertainties and ongoing threats of adult life intermingle with a sense of inadequacy that underlies such symptoms as anxiety and fear of failure.
- Tagetes: Underestimation by the Father. Seeking of the Father’s Blessing.
As mentioned above, here are the recipes.
After Shave Face Oil
125ml Jojoba Oil
25 drops of essential oil or essential oil synergy of your choice or less.
1. Add the jojoba oil to a dark bottle.
2. Create your essential oil synergy in a small dark bottle.
3. Add the essential oil synergy to the jojoba.
4. Shake well to mix.
Use a little morning and evening. Patchouli, Myrrh and Geranium are all good oils for caring for the skin after shaving but you can use any blend that feels appropriate to you. Remember add your essential oils to your base at no more than a 1% dilution.
Making up an Essential Oil Beard Oil is quick and easy!
Remember a little goes a long way and blending in a small 10ml bottle with a dropper top is a great way to control how much is used.
Essential oils are very potent and as this blend will be applied to the face keep the dilution of essential oils in the final product very low at 1% or less. In practical terms this means that for every teaspoon (5ml) of carrier oil you add 1 drop of essential oil or essential oil synergy, so in the 10ml bottle you would add just 2 drops. Your choice whether you want to just go with a single note essential oil or make up a synergy and then just add 2 drops of the synergy to the final product.
There are a number of carrier oils and essential oils one could consider using for a Beard Oil and for more suggestions and ideas on what to choose depending on skin type, read the article on Essential Oils and Skin Care. However as it is particularly good for all skin types I would recommend going with Jojoba (Simmondsia chinensis). It contains protein, minerals, plant wax and myristic acid and has a chemical composition resembling the skin’s sebum. Its waxy structure and anti-bacterial properties give it a long shelf life. It is readily absorbed by the skin and has a non-oily softening effect. It is especially suitable for the face and is used for eczema, psoriasis, and hair care. Rosemary, Lavender, Chamomile, Geranium and Vetiver essential oil are all good options for using in a Beard Oil. Choose the one you like the aroma of best or try making up one of the following synergies and adding just 2 drops of it to the 10ml jojoba oil.
One night a father overheard his son pray:
Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is.
Later that night, the Father prayed,
Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.